What’s something about yourself that you’re tired of explaining to others?
By - code_momode
My pupils aren’t the same size. It just is what it is. It’s not that noticeable but once you see it it cannot be unseen
How is your vision?
Near sighted. -3 In each eye.
I had congenital cataracts at birth. Had surgery, both lenses and suspensory ligaments removed. I have to wear thick glasses that make my eyes look huge.
“Why are your eyes so big?”
Because my glasses make them look that way.
“Can’t you wear contacts?”
I have, but I have awful muscle control and the contacts move around too much/get stuck in incorrect places.
“What about PRK/LASIK?”
You need a lens for these procedures to have any effect.
I have no suspensory ligaments so an artificial lens would have nothing to hold it in place.
“Have you gotten a second opinion?”
I’ve been seen by many ophthalmologists over the course of my life and none will operate on me because of the 50/50 chance I’ll go blind completely.
“Why are you rolling your eyes at me?!”
It’s not on purpose, I have bad muscle control.
“How are you unable to drive, but are still able to be a programmer?”
Driving is a lot different than making the text size bigger. It’s better for you and everyone else that I don’t drive.
Because I have no peripheral vision, very low depth perception and spatial awareness, and an 80-degree field of vision.
“What are your numbers?”
20/40-20/70 in my right eye and 20/125 in my left eye, corrected. The doctors can’t or won’t assign me numbers without correction.
“Are you nearsighted? Farsighted?”
“Are you looking at me? Why are you looking over there?”
I’m trying to look at you, but I have poor muscle control.
“Why is your face always slightly turned left when you’re looking at me?”
Because my right eye is my better eye.
“Why are your glasses so thick?”
Because my Rx is really high (+10 on both sides), I have astigmatism, and a progressive lens for up close vision.
My personal (least) favorite:
“Well you just need to see another doctor and they can fix it,” or, “you just haven’t looked into all the options.”
Shut the fuck up. My pediatric ophthalmologist is a well-known surgeon who operated on children around the world. I have been seen by at least ten other ophthalmologists in my adult life who all say that trying to fix this has a high risk of me going completely blind.
A different topic, but, “why are you so quiet? Why don’t you speak up/more?”
I listen and observe. If I don’t think I have anything to add to the conversation, I’m not going to talk just for the sake of talking.
I can totally relate to the last part. Like what are people actually expecting, word diarrhoea? Sheesh...
I’m not anti social I just don’t fuck with yall so tight cause yall some bad folk
Ew. These people are awful. “You don’t talk to us so that means there’s something wrong with you.”
Oh my gosh. Are you okay?
Why I talk so differently. Cuz I'm not from here.
Wow have the people asking you this never talked to someone from outside their country?
No it's because I come from Massachusetts and I live in Arizona. Have a very thick Boston accent and some of our words up there mean different things from what they mean down here.
My ADHD. I'm tired of trying to explain that it so much more then 'trouble sitting still disorder.'
I have it too. Some people can be so ignorant.
How tall I am. It’s not that I’m terribly tall, just tall enough to answer it more than I want.
People ask you how you’re tall?
Why I’m single with no kids. SMH..
Because you want to be?
I was married before. Been divorced since 2003. Haven’t met anyone that I want to spend my life with since. Was told I couldn’t have kids so that wasn’t an option.
I see. I was married for seven years until summer of 2018. I also couldn’t have kids, and had a hysterectomy because I had endometriosis.
I hope you’re living your best life!
I am, thanks! I hope you are as well!!!!